Why You Need A Midlife Mentor

Throughout your lifetime, you have probably had many mentors. You may not have recognized them as such, but guidance counsellors, sports coaches, and career managers are all types of mentors. If you are planning for retirement, you may also have a financial planner. If you are trying to get into physical shape, you may have a personal trainer. All of these people did or are helping you achieve some sort of objective. But what about your goals for happiness and satisfaction in the second half of your life? A midlife mentor can help you find purpose in what can become the most satisfying years of your life.

 

Admittedly, when I was younger, I thought fifty was old and that I would have it “all together”. What that meant to me was that I would know where I was going, what I was doing and how I was going to achieve that. In other words, I thought I would have all the answers. When I reached middle age and I realised that I didn’t, I had an over-whelming feeling of being stuck, bored and agitated with life. I began to grasp on to the idea that I needed to make major life changes to make me happy. A midlife mentor helped me recognize that change can be good, but they have to be the right changes.

 

I’m not sure why I believed that things would just fall into place for me in some cosmic natural rhythm, that somehow the life I wanted would just fall into my lap. Up to this point in my life, I had to focus on what I wanted and make clear goals and plans to be successful. I looked to others that I thought had already taken this path and took advice from them. But now, I was expecting myself to have all the answers. Why was I approaching middle age completely contrary to everything I had done before?

 

Again, this comes back to feeling like at this age, one should have all the answers. Maybe some do, but I don’t. And that’s ok. What’s not ok, is spinning around in a circle, trying to find an answer when the person right next to me may have already figured out that part of the journey I wish to take. If you are feeling like you are lacking purpose and direction, I strongly suggest you find yourself a midlife mentor. They can help you in so many ways.

 

10 Ways A Midlife Mentor Helps You Achieve Purpose

 

  1. Helps you decide what you really want from life.
  2. Helps you set achievable goals.

  3. Helps you recognize unattainable goals that are clouding your focus and hindering your progress.

  4. Helps you navigate a path that they have already taken with inspiration and wisdom.

  5. Encourages you to go outside your comfort level.

  6. Makes you accountable to yourself.

  7. Helps you continually reassess your vision as it pertains to your goal.

  8. Becomes your own personal cheerleader but also makes you strive for more.

  9. Does not let you dwell on missteps and helps you adjust your plans for success.

  10. Helps you set a pace that is both challenging but feasible.

 

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Do you have a midlife mentor? Share in comments how they have helped you achieve your dreams, goals or increase your happiness factor.

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29 thoughts on “Why You Need A Midlife Mentor

  1. I love, completely buy into, and practice this idea! Technology like Skype make mid-life mentoring easier to stick with and saves precious time too! I can’t always justify scheduling an hour every week to meet for coffee (which will no doubt turn into two or three hours) but I can commit to Skype at the same time each week and then using that time to set goals and hold each other accountable. Great piece! I look forward to leaning more form you!

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    1. That is so awesome that you found someone. I think it is great that you can support and cheer each other on. You should record some of your sessions so we can get a glimpse of mentoring in action.

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  2. I would love a midlife mentor. A friend of mine, who I trust and love, told me she found a woman in our midlife group and they mentor each other. I’d love that. Try as I might I couldn’t think of an exact one for what I do and write about. So I’ll be looking for more posts about it from you, Elena. Many thanks.

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  3. I found someone to help me through. She, being 20 years older than me, had been there done that. She is soooo helpful, encouraging and helped bring me to my true authentic self. I’ll be forever grateful to her… what a great post!

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  4. Hi Elena – I’m finding my midlife mentors in the blogging community – so many interesting women who are embracing this stage of life and inspiring me to celebrate it to. Looking forward to reading more from you on this very interesting topic 🙂 ~ Leanne

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  5. To have someone in your life who wants the best for you, supports and encourages you is such a blessing. I guess we may have various goals like family goals, business goals, fitness goals etc and it could be we would have a different mentor in each of these areas.
    It is a bit different, but reading and learning from others blogs is good too, just not the same as sharing a coffee 🙂
    Kathleen

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  6. What a thoughtful post, Elena! Great advice as we make our way through this stage of life – it is wonderful to have folks who’ve been there, done that to give us some perspective (if only to affirm that we’re not losing it as we navigate these new-to-us waters).

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  7. Hi Elena! Now that I think about it I’ve never had a midlife mentor. When I was young I never even THOUGHT about getting older or what I would be like at this age. All I knew is that anyone my mom’s age or older was OLD–and I’ve never been that 🙂 Funny how perspective changes right? The good news is that people can now read and study so much right here on the internet like you suggest and remake ourselves in positive and affirming ways. ~Kathy

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    1. Very true Cathy, the mentor doesn’t necessarily have to be someone we have physical contact with. The internet is a wonderful thing when used to improve oneself. Thank you for dropping by.

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  8. I used to think we were supposed to strive to be ‘self made women/men’, and that we needed to figure everything out for ourselves. Later, I realized there is no such thing – everything we, as human beings, have learned or built has ALL come from information/discoveries by those before us and/or in conjunction with others. I’ve had a number of mentors in my life – some such as you’ve suggested were teachers, managers, etc, etc, and happened just by the nature of the time/place I was in at the time, and others are ones I’ve specifically reached out to to ask them to mentor me. All have been useful, and I can’t imagine doing life without the benefit of such associations. Good job, and great post! #MidLifeLuv

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    1. I had to read that twice Beth before I noticed the “don’t”. I thought, wow, this girl has got her stuff together! lol Thank you for joining in. #MidLifeLuv

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  9. They say the teacher appears when the student is ready. That could apply to mentors as well. I wouldn’t mind a mentor at this point in my life. You make such a good point, why do we usually think of mentors as something just for the young?

    Anita

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    1. Society believes we should have all the answers as we get older, thereby enforcing the idea that mentors are just for the young. But that is not true. We can always learn things. Thanks for stopping by Anita.

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  10. Hi Elena, Great topic. I actually did find a mentor about six years ago–he is older than I am, and an published author and I was struggling with my writing and he read some of it and said WOW. That helped me continue on and gave me the courage to write and publish. He also reads my blog and believes in what I do. So does my husband–but it’s wonderful to have someone in the trenches cheering you on. Good luck with your future posts. I think many will be interested.
    Beth Havey

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  11. Great tips. About 8 years ago I found a business mentor and I see her about every 2 months. Since it is my business that I started my life and business are intertwined. The help and guidance and perspective are fantastic.

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  12. I could not agree with this more.I have been doing some reading on reverse – – where the mentor is younger than you are 🙂 – – I’m in. Now to find volunteers…

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    1. At this point in my life it seems everyone is younger than I am so that’s inevitable. Don’t wait for volunteers, just lovingly attach yourself. lol

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