Sweatpants or Sequins? Do Clothes Define You?

Sweatpants or Sequins? What do you prefer? People judge by appearance all the time but do clothes define you?


If I had to give you a percentage for the amount of time I spend in sweatpants, I would say 99%. I may be slightly exaggerating but considering I don’t work outside the home I’d say that’s a good guess. Sweat pants/yoga pants are like pull ups for adults. Convenient and absorbent.

Anyhoo, dressed in my normal “wouldn’t be caught dead outside the house but have” outfit, I sat down to read blog posts this morning. Hmmm. Several about body image, clothes, confidence. I look down at my pink polka dot splotched pants. You ladies that use bleach to clean will understand. I think to myself “Have I gone too far the other way?”

Let me explain. I used to work in an office. I used to work in management. I used to wear a suit/dress up everyday. Been there, done that. It was at least a year after I had quit my last job before I had the guts to pitch most of that wardrobe. There were some real gems in there too and if culottes have come back, I am almost positive shoulder pads would have eventually come back in style too.

But now I work at home and find myself rotating between several key pieces. Let’s be honest. The closest, least dirty wins.

If I must go out to run errands, I do pull on a pair of jeans and a clean top. But don’t check any surveillance cameras please.

I have to admit, dressing nice for work gave me power and confidence. It does make you feel good about yourself. But ladies, you know it’s frickin’ exhausting. It used to take me an hour to get ready. I’m too old to hold a rolling brush in place with one hand while holding the hair dryer in the other for what seems like hours. Admit it! You have put your hands down leaving the brush stuck in your hair and contemplated styling an updoo around it.

So what do my clothes say about me now? I give up? Maybe. But guess what? I don’t care. I don’t know if it’s age or attitude but my clothes don’t define me. I like me. I’m a smart, confident woman in my fifties. If you choose to judge me by my appearance, you’ve lost out. But be careful. Because that next fancy dress party that you approach me at because I look fantastic and I’m dressed to the nines, be prepared for me to judge you on character. If you can’t take my sweats, you don’t get my sequins.

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  1. OMG, that last sentence is pure gold. I love bonkers clothes, so I wear those when I’m out, but at home I’m in whatever tops, pants, and socks are softest and cleanest… and they rarely match.

  2. I spend ALL of my home hours in sweat pants (or Jammies) – if I go out it’s only ever to shops/park/beach (or all three)…jeans in the winter, shorts or maxi dress in the summer. On the rare occasion that there’s a family do I dress what I have up a bit. Comfort is key these days.

  3. Ha! I know that feeling . . . life in sweatpants. After WAY to many days of ending up still in my pj’s at 4pm, I started heading off to the local Starbucks to work. It got me up, dressed and around other people — instead of home alone in front of my computer. These days I live a happy medium, some days spent at home, some days out. It makes for a less crazy me!

  4. Your clothes don’t define you. But they tell the world how to define you. If you’re happy with how they react to you based on that, bravo! Comfort and confidence should go hand in hand in our clothes.

    1. I’ve always been a very confident person and have never looked to other people for approval. I know that not everyone is like that. I am however, very strict on dressing appropriately for functions/occasions/meetings/dinners. I know my kids hate that but what did I spend all that money on good suits for them for?

  5. I’m a sweats girl too, but only at home. If I go out in them I feel inadequate. I love dressing up but I love taking off the uncomfortable stuff too.

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