My husband and I just celebrated our 7th wedding anniversary. We have a wonderful relationship but it has taken a lot of hard work and patience to achieve the level of contentment and symmetry we have now.
The beginning of our relationship was fun but fast. I doubt either one of us had time to think.
Looking back now, I can clearly see that he was in a manic phase, one of the bipolar symptoms. It would be a few years into our marriage before he would be officially diagnosed with Bipolar Type 1.
This is not entirely unusual. I hear from many spouses on my blog and my YouTube Channel. It seems many of our stories begin the same.
I hope to educate and inspire others to find serenity and happiness in their lives, and in their marriages. I realize that not everyone is able to be in a relationship with a bipolar person. It takes two to make it work.
Here is a quick reference guide for you if you believe you, your spouse or a family member may be bipolar. Please seek professional help for a correct diagnosis.
Let me preface that I am neither a therapist or licensed professional I merely share my story to help others see that they too can have a successful marriage and overcome obstacles together. This is the beginning…
“I got in your car and you leaned into me.
Too fast. It all began too fast and was so all-consuming. The exhilaration of a new relationship to me, I realize now was just a manic phase for you. After 16 years of a non-existent marriage, I jumped all in to a relationship with someone who made me feel wanted. Was it really love or was I just your latest addiction?
I flirted with online dating sites for months. Vacillating between being obsessed with logging on and chatting to staying away for weeks. Somewhere in there, you found me. ” Diary, Mrs. Bipolar, 2006.
And so it begins. At least that’s how it all began for me. Divorced, two kids, looking for some harmless fun. Little did I know I would meet the man of my dreams…and my nightmares. The first 2 years were a whirlwind of dating, moving in together, getting engaged and getting married. There were some things I was aware of in the beginning. I knew he had been an alcoholic, sober for 15 years. I knew he had had a gambling problem. I knew he was bad with money. How could someone that had a good job never have any? I knew that at some points in his life he had suffered from depression and panic attacks. I knew he was on anti-depressants. So I clearly didn’t go into this relationship with my eyes closed, did I? Looking back, I would characterize those years as hypo mania; fun, happy, good times. I was not prepared for the chaos that would come next…
Disclaimer: I am not a therapist or a doctor. This post is based solely on my personal experiences and should not be deemed as advice or counsel. Please seek appropriate medical attention from a licensed professional.
Recommended Reading: (affiliate links)
Loving Someone with Bipolar Disorder: Understanding and Helping Your Partner
Take Charge of Bipolar Disorder: A 4-Step Plan for You and Your Loved Ones to Manage the Illness and Create Lasting Stability
Bipolar Disorder: A Guide for Patients and Families
Watch my videos about bipolar on You Tube here.